We’re after all, the Best of Friends.

Ejay and I are two different girls - when combined becomes one fabulously loud personality. We’ve been friends for more than a year now. Looking back, I can only imagine how far we’ve traveled in this journey called life.

Our friendship isn’t always smooth sailing. We had our fair share of rough rides too - which to some certain extent, brought us apart. I believe all relationships go through that stage when you would need some space to find yourself, perhaps. When you would need to run away from people and just be alone for some time.

Yes, we have grown apart in the past months. Met new friends along the way. And the sad part is, we never talked. We tried to patch things up, but it didn’t work. Maybe, it wasn’t the right time yet. We may not admit it to ourselves, but it was painful. And there are instances when we just can’t make things work our way.

Months and months passed by… so many things have happened. Most especially to me I guess. I needed someone whom I can trust.. someone who would listen to me.. someone I can cry on.. someone who would tap my back and say, “Be strong. Things will be alright..” someone who would knock my head off.. someone who would scold me for my mistake but understands me anyway.. someone who’s gonna give me a comforting hug.. someone who is more than willing to accept my lapses. I knew I needed my best friend at that point in my life but I was so afraid to let her know. Scared of messing up with her oh-so-happy life now.

People around us would often say that those who have been friends for the longest time would always find a way to bring back what they’ve had.

On a personal note, I think it’s really just a question of pride. Who’s gonna reach out first? Who’s gonna say sorry? Who’s gonna admit she’s wrong? Sometimes it’s pride that keeps us from doing what we should have long done.

So I took a leap of faith.

August 29th, I sent her a message. I wasn’t even sure if she still has the same number so I texted one of our friends [Ronli] to make sure Ejay will get my message. It didn’t have to be a long one though- just a simple thought would be enough.

[quote] “We may have grown apart in the past months but you’ll always be my bff. I miss you big time E.” [unquote]

She did reply the next day and the rest is history.

We surely have a lot of catching up to do so we planned to have a bff date. We were both excited but we also admitted to ourselves that we’re scared - we fear that things will never be the same again.

Come September 5th, I felt and acted like a kid because I know this is gonna be one of my best Sundays - a day of drama and fun, of reconciliation and fresh beginning:)

We met at 5:30pm - at our favorite powder room in Glorietta. I was literally in tears when I was walking my way there. My hands were a bit shaky. And when I finally opened the door - Ejay was there, looking straight at me in the mirror. Without further ado, we embraced each other. It didn’t feel awkward anymore. There were no hesitations whatsoever. It brought genuine happiness especially on my part because I knew then that my best friend forever is back.

We decided to have our dinner at World Chicken in Greenbelt 1. Not only because it’s cheaper there but the ambiance’s really good. Perfect for a one-on-one talk. We definitely enjoyed the food but we enjoyed talking even more. For once, the child in us came out - we just laughed and cried our hearts out. We updated each other - making sure we’ll never miss a detail. We almost forgot that time’s running fast. We felt like there’s just so much to talk about still but we had very little time - but nonetheless, it’s been a day of pure bliss.

Life’s best lessons are sometimes learned at the worst times. 

I am now on my 24th week of pregnancy - on to my 6th month in a few days. And knowing that my best friend’s gonna be with me as I go through this journey means so much. It kind of lifted half of the burden I have in myself at this point. My mom has no knowledge of this yet - but mother’s instinct tells her my condition at this very moment. We plan on telling her soon. I just need to ask God for courage and wisdom. It wouldn’t be easy but mom said, it wouldn’t be hard as long as you have God in your life. With my best friend’s support and words of encouragement, I’ll be able to conquer my fears and face the new chapter in my life. 

Ejay’s more than just a bff - she’s more of a sister to me -and with the ordeal our friendship went through, we surely have learned a lot. We often hear people say that friends do come and go. We say it’s not. We always have a choice. We choose who to let go and we choose who to stay. As for Ejay and I, we chose to reconcile and work our differences out.

There are two things I think that saved our friendship. One is humility - to admit that somewhere in the middle, you’ve been wrong. And two is to find yourself caring for that person still - because at the end of the day, you’ll say to yourself that we’re after all, the Best of Friends♡